So, last night (yet another boozy Saturday) we were discussing relationships amongst other topical issues. I piped up with a truth I still hold to be evident: for me to get into another relationship before I reach 100, I believe I would have to settle.
I currently feel like the 'search' for a boyfriend is fraught with average Joe types who would be perfectly fine as boyfriends, but nothing exciting nor particularly fabulous. But really, do we need a fabulous man to hold our interest?
What provokes this query, was having a drink with an old player yesterday afternoon. I have always ignored the blatent interest J has shown in me, as I always found him kind of skeezy, and whilst not completely unattractive nothing wowed me about him. Anyhow, low and behold I am sitting down having a red wine after work with him- due to a rather misplaced text last weekend. However, the follow up from J was good- he suggested a catch up and he made it happen. Kudos.
Now I actually did not hate this encounter- and it makes me wonder, do we write off these average Joe's too fast? Should we be more open to giving them a chance?
Love S
No, we should not. They become far too attached and then it all turns to shit because you realise you are too good for them, and you end up breaking their heart. And feel like a bitch.
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- B
S,
ReplyDeletesometimes we just need to trust our gut feeling - finding a guy skeezy should set alarm bells off letting you know to not venture forward in this instance. If nothing wowed you about him originally imagine what he would be like as your bf... do not settle..
Nancy
Nancy and B,
ReplyDeleteIt is more general thought wanderings...I would not actually allow this particular skeeze to progress any further than a catch up every now and again. I was more amused to find that catching up with him was not that bad...
Perhaps we need to be more open to giving men a chance in both friendship and love?
S