I have a pressing question...when is it not OK to run around with another guy?
I have been 'hanging out' with a particular lad for a wee while now, but I am reluctant to let things progress into the dreaded 'relationship' label. This is for reasons which may have been touched on already- the main fact being that I appear to have shitty taste in the opposite sex which is not obvious until I receive a creepy message and Oxfam card, or they move countries to stalk me!
However, naturally he is not allowed to go near any other ladies, or I will end whatever thing it is we have going. On the other hand, I seem not to have the same qualms about my own behaviour....
Picture this: Friday night, particular lad away for the weekend, BYO, friends I have not seen in a while, new boys I haven't met before, alcohol, lots of alcohol.
Oh and something else I have not mentioned before- I like a challenge. Basically, what happens under the influence of the drink is that I unwittingly pick a 'target' and test out the water as to whether I can get that target or not. It is a stupid game as I think I realise when I select the target, it is never going to be a 'no-deal'.
Right, so with all that in mind I was dropped home in a ute on Saturday morning before work. Now I am aware that makes me sound like a slapper...I am actually not. Really.
I worked out along the road of the night that yes my target had also had his eye on me. Too easy. However, somehow I ended up at his house anyway. The intoxicated me did not realise that by going back to his house he would naturally think that boom it was all go. So low and behold things started progressing down that path and I freaked out at him- yelled that I was going home and began gathering my bag etc. Unfortunately after this rather dramatic display I realised that I did not have my keys and hence would be unable to get into my house. Turns out the thoughtful me had given them to a friend who was staying at my house for the night. Good. So I was forced to creep back into the bed and stay the night regardless. Despite this problematic night, it appeared to make the target more keen if anything and eager to make amends. Ah who knew, being a wasted mental case was attractive?
Anyway I digress. Was I in the wrong for this indiscretion?Technically no, however my double standards make me wonder if I am always destined to be alone and will end up being a desperate cougar targeting innocent young men for cheap thrills.
Love S
S,
ReplyDeletewould it be different if i shoe was on the other foot so to speak? i guess not?
As the old age saying goes ‘Treat others as you would like to be treated’ i sound like a granny harping on but it just makes sense!
carrying on..I do have this to say…
The oxford dictionary define a 'challenge' as:
Something that by its nature or character serves as a call to battle, contest, requiring SPECIAL EFFORT.
I wouldn’t say your 'challenges' are battles or contests but i shall carry on as I think you get the point
Having been a witness to a few your 'challenges' [rather amusing] i agree with you above that an easy target is generally on the cards. no special effort required from both parties
Having succeeded in your challenge I have noticed a few times that it’s usually followed by shudders of disgust not a sense of I might actually like this guy and maybe I would like to see him again. So was the challenge really worth it?……Sadly we both know that alcohol plays large role in the shudders of disgust and also the other parties lack of effort, a guys effort to impress a intoxicated girl is well…not that special lets say
Set yourself a challenge, a real challenge, [don't ask me how i'm not really sure] but that requires special effort from both parties and maybe you won't shudder so much again!
Di. x
Di,
ReplyDeleteI appreciate the thoughts- and I hate to admit the truth contained in the above. There are several things I take from your advice:
1. Stop drinking like a washed up slapper
2. Stop being a predator akin to a washed up slapper
However, an update....I have decided it is time to settle down and become a one man girl. Watch this space.
S,
ReplyDeleteI'm glad you could take something from it and I hope I didn't come cross too critical or judgemental.